The Reality of Crimes of Passion
Crimes of passion—murders driven by intense emotions such as jealousy, betrayal, or rage—are a significant security concern in Kenya. These crimes, often occurring within intimate relationships, are legally and criminologically classified under various terms, including intimate partner homicide (IPH), domestic homicide, romantic rage killings, love triangle murders, and jealousy-induced homicide. While some cases fall under spousal homicide, others arise post-breakup, fueled by rejection and emotional distress. The severity of these crimes is evident in recent statistics: in the first half of 2019, over 40 women and 5 men were killed by a current or ex-partner in Kenya. More recently, between September 2023 and December 2024, Kenya recorded 7,107 cases of sexual and gender-based violence, with 100 women murdered in just four months, most by men they knew. The alarming frequency of these violent acts underscores the need for heightened awareness, legal action, and security interventions to prevent further tragedies.
The Rising Threat of Gender-Based Violence
A United Nations report released last year revealed that 85,000 women and girls around the world were killed in 2023. Of these, 51,100 were murdered by an intimate partner or family member—amounting to a staggering 140 deaths daily. Africa recorded the highest rates of intimate partner and family-related femicide, followed by the Americas and Oceania.
In Kenya, the crisis continues to deepen. In January 2025, thousands took to the streets in nationwide protests demanding urgent action against escalating femicide cases. The Kenyan government responded by declaring gender-based violence (GBV) the country’s most pressing security threat, citing that 100 women had been killed in just four months. Additionally, our security data indicates that over 50% of homicide cases reported in the country are linked to gender-based violence.
Security Tips to Stay Safe in Relationships
With love should come security. Here are essential tips to help couples stay safe and avoid potential threats:
1. Conduct a Background Check Before Committing
Before making any serious commitment, be aware of your partner’s history. If you have concerns, discreetly verify their background or seek professional assistance.
2. Be Cautious of Digital Vulnerabilities
Avoid sharing passwords, financial details, or personal security codes with your partner. Cyber harassment and financial exploitation often stem from trust misused.
3. Keep Your Location Private
Be mindful of sharing real-time locations, especially on social media. Many victims have been tracked and harmed by individuals exploiting this information.
4. Set Security Boundaries at Home
If you live together, establish clear security boundaries—install CCTV cameras, secure locks, and alarm systems. This provides evidence in case of a dispute and acts as a deterrent to violence.
5. Have a Personal Emergency Plan
Always have a trusted contact who can check in on you. Consider setting up a distress signal or unique text code to alert someone in case of danger.
6. Trust Your Instincts and Avoid Isolation
If your partner shows signs of aggression, manipulation, or violent tendencies, do not ignore the red flags. Seek help before the situation escalates.
7. Engage Professional Security When Necessary
If you feel unsafe, involve law enforcement or private security professionals. Never attempt to handle dangerous situations alone.
8. Report Threats and Violence Immediately
Threats, stalking, or any form of abuse should be reported to authorities or security professionals at the first sign of escalation. Waiting could put your life at risk.
9. Restrict Access to Your Home
Do not duplicate your keys or share access details with people you’ve just met. Only trusted and verified persons should have information about where you live.
10. Consider a Personal Alarm and Emergency Response Services
Invest in a personal alarm with a panic button that connects to emergency response services. A quick response can be the difference between life and death.
11. Install a Car Tracking Device
Your safety extends beyond your home. Consider installing a car tracking device and security accessories like dashboard cameras to enhance your personal security on the move.
Conclusion
Love should never cost you your safety. The increasing cases of GBV in Kenya demand immediate action, awareness, and preparedness. This Valentine’s, as we celebrate love, let’s also commit to protecting ourselves and those around us. Stay aware, stay secure.